The best sex toys for gay men
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Miriam
05-12-2022 · 1661 views · 0 comments

The internet will show you quite a few lists of popular sex toys, but most of them are only focused on heterosexuals. And that’s a shame, as there are so many nice gay toys available! It’s high time to change this. We’ve taken a look at the best and most popular gay toys and compiled a list for you!

Also read: The 5 best sex toys for men

What’s in this article?

Fleshjack masturbators

Masturbators from Fleshjack are specially designed for gay men. Each Fleshjack has a penetrable sleeve with an opening inspired by those of several well-known (gay) porn stars. There’s a wide choice of replicas of the buttocks, anus, or mouth. Each Fleshjack has a structure chosen and/or composed by the model himself and is therefore unique.

As with the original Fleshlights, the stimulating sleeves are hidden in a casing that resembles a torch. This makes the Fleshjack unrecognisable as a sex toy from the outside, so no one will ever know you have one in your house!

“Each Fleshjack is a replica of a famous (gay) porn star.”

Real feeling

The patented Real Feel Superskin is a material similar to silicone and creates a lifelike feeling. Another advantage of this material is that it’s easy to heat up! For example, take the sleeve out of its discreet housing and put it in a bowl of hot water for a few minutes to warm up the material. This gives the sleeve an even more realistic feel. You could also choose to use a warming water-based lubricant.

The inside of the sleeves features a unique stimulating structure that matches the opening of the Fleshjack. For example, the masturbator with an anus opening has a wavy channel with a tight opening, while the one with a mouth opening starts a little looser and ends in a ribbed channel.

Prostate stimulators

Do you like prostate stimulation? Or are you curious about the pleasure this brings? With a prostate stimulator, you can easily and effectively stimulate a man’s pleasure spot: the prostate. Prostate stimulators can be recognized by a thick, spherical head and a slight curve in the shaft!

Due to this curvature, the toy automatically moves towards the prostate with its bulbous head when inserted. It then presses lightly against the prostate gland. This is what stimulates the prostate! By moving the toy back and forth slowly or quickly, you stimulate the prostate even more during use.

Vibrations

Most stimulators can vibrate. Often, you have the ability to switch between different vibration modes, which allows you to influence the level of stimulation. A prostate massage, when performed properly, provides many men with a high level of sexual excitement and a spectacular orgasm! Prostate stimulators are available in different shapes and sizes.

Prostate or perineum massage is healthy

A massage of the prostate also has necessary benefits for your health. By massaging the prostate regularly, there’s a chance that you can prevent prostate complaints. Bacteria can accumulate in the prostate when the prostate fluid is not released regularly. This can cause men to experience symptoms like a burning sensation during urination. By massaging the prostate or the perineum with, for instance, a prostate stimulator, you flush the prostate and keep it in good, healthy condition.


Anal lubricant

It’s probably no news that lubricant is essential when anal sex is on the menu. Created especially for anal sex lovers, several anal lubes are available. The special thing about these lubricants is that they have a thicker viscosity, and they’re available with a silicone and water base.

Many people know that using lubricant helps to prevent painful friction during sexual intercourse. It also helps you insert sex toys comfortably! This is especially important during anal sex, as anal sex is generally quite rough. The anus is also a lot narrower than the vagina, which makes the anus more sensitive to damage.

“Lubricant is essential when anal sex is on the menu.”

Silicone and water-based lubricants

A silicone-based lubricant lasts longer than a water-based one. You don’t have to reapply it as often to keep things running smoothly. However, do you want to combine a lubricant with an anal sex toy? In this case, it’s advisable to use a water-based anal lubricant. This is because a silicone sex toy doesn’t work well with silicone-based lubricant.

Also read: The complete lube guide for better sex

Are you just starting out with anal sex or anal sex toys? A number of anal lubricants have a component that lightly numbs the anus. This makes it easier to relax the anus, which in turn makes penetration smoother. An example of such a lubricant is the lubricant by Pjur Analyse Me!

Cock rings

A cock ring is slid around the penis and in some cases also around the testicles, but in that case, we often talk about a ball stretcher or a ball splitter. This way, a man can hold his erection longer, resulting in a firm and long-lasting erection!

Cock rings are handy when you have trouble maintaining your erection, but it’s also nice for your partner. Of course, you can just wear the cock ring to make sex last longer, without worrying about anything or experiencing physical issues. This way, your partner can enjoy your firm erection for longer!

Different types

There are many different cock rings available. If you have no idea which size to choose, an adjustable cock ring is the perfect solution. These are often made of rubber or silicone. The advantage is that they always fit, and you can also slide them around an erect penis!

“Cock rings made of metal are a fixed size and are like jewellery for your penis!”

If you already know what size cock ring you need, you could opt for a metal cock ring. These cock rings are a fixed size and can be worn as a kind of jewellery because of their beautiful appearance. And of course, some cock rings have an extra function, like a cock ring with an anal plug or an extra ring for your balls.

Also read: How to use a cock ring

Vibrating cock rings

Many men still believe that a vibrating cock ring only works for heterosexual couples, but it also works extremely well for two men and for solo use. By wearing the vibrating part of the cock ring downwards, the cock ring does its erection-strengthening work and stimulates the testicles!

Cock rings with ball stretchers

Ball stretchers have the same function as a cock ring, but they’re often used to stretch the scrotum during a BDSM session. A cock ring with ball stretcher makes you push your scrotum down, and by doing so, you postpone your orgasm. For many men this can feel exciting, as the scrotum becomes more sensitive.


Penis pumps

For many men, the penis pump is seen as an erection extender and is therefore also known as an erection pump. The pump creates a vacuum and causes the blood vessels in the shaft to widen, so that more blood flows into the erectile tissue. The result: a bigger penis and a harder erection!

For men with erection problems, a penis pump can be a real godsend. It’s also the ultimate toy and its sucking effect can be compared to getting a blowjob, which isn’t that strange. By adjusting the suction to your liking, the head of the penis is stimulated, and oral pleasure can be imitated.

“You can compare the sucking effect with getting a blowjob!”

Hand pumps

Most penis pumps are operated with the help of a hand pump. These toys are simply called hand pumps. By squeezing the pump, the penis is pulled into the vacuum chamber and the blood flow increases. Nearly all hand pumps are transparent so that the user can see the penis increase in size. The air pressure can be reduced by pressing the valve or the air pressure regulator.

Automatic pumps

Besides the analogue penis pumps with hand pump, electric penis pumps are also available. With a single push of a button, you activate a powerful vacuum and control the stimulation yourself with a remote control or buttons on the toy. Many of these penis pumps have a LED display showing some necessary information.

Also read: How to use a penis pump

Many automatic penis pumps are waterproof, so you can safely use them in the shower or bath. The Bathmate penis pumps are even specially made to be used with water. Some penis pumps can also make up and down movements.

Dildos

Choosing between dildos can be a challenge, as they come in all shapes and sizes. The smallest dildo starts with an insertion depth of about 10 cm, but the bigger dildos can reach 25 cm or more in length! Most dildos have the shape and appearance of a real penis, and some are a bit more realistic than others, so you’ll have to make that choice yourself. In addition, nearly all dildos are equipped with a suction cup, so you can easily attach them to any flat surface. We’ll leave it to up to you to imagine what you can do with them 😉

Anal dildos

Dildos intended for anal use often have a slightly narrower tip which makes them easier to insert. Most anal dildos have a wide end (sometimes in the form of a handle) so that you don’t have to worry about it accidentally sliding inside. You can also opt for a dildo with a suction cup, so that you don’t have to hold it. These dildos can be used in all kinds of positions. Many versions have a large round head and a slight curve in the shaft, which can be used for prostate stimulation.

Realistic dildos

The name says it all: realistic dildos have the look and feel of a real penis. Some models have testicles at the base of the dildo, and they often have firm veins on the shaft. Some versions are also squirting dildos or exact replicas of (gay) porn stars! For gay men who both like to experience penetration during sex, double dildos will provide a great sensation.

Packer Penis

The Packer Penis should not really be placed in the dildo category, but we’ll mention it anyway. Unlike a dildo, this model is not available in erect form. The Packer is designed to fill up your underwear, which can be very interesting for transgenders who have not yet had a transition or don’t want to undergo one. Please note that you cannot penetrate with a Packer Penis.


Butt plugs

A butt plug is another toy for anal insertion. Butt plugs have a wide end which seals the anus during use. When the plug is inserted, it stays there, leaving you with both hands to do whatever you want!

Just like dildos, butt plugs also come in different sizes, so you can always find the right fit. Unlike dildos, butt plugs have a shallower insertion depth, which makes them suitable for beginners. As a beginner, you could start out with one of our butt plug sets to get used to the feeling and the size.

“The wide end seals the anus so that it doesn’t slip in.”

Hollow butt plugs

A hollow butt plug can be a nice addition for you and your partner when you like anal stimulation. Just like a normal butt plug, it offers the filled-up feeling, also the possibility to penetrate the plug, or to insert liquids like lubricant. Hollow, metal butt plugs are also very suitable for temperature play!

Also read: Butt plugs: the best preparation for anal sex

Vibrating butt plugs

You may also be interested in vibrating butt plugs. These are plugs that stimulate the anus, and some also stimulate the prostate. These are ideal to use during foreplay, as the vibrations relax the anus. This makes anal sex a lot easier and less painful. It can also contribute to a nice masturbation session with a more intense climax.

Anal douche

Be prepared, stay clean! An anal douche is a handy tool to clean the inside of the anus. With the anal douche, you spray water into the anus and let it run out again (above the toilet). This way, the rectum is cleaned, which is a lot more hygienic during sex or when using gay sex toys.

Couples who are just starting to have anal sex sometimes worry. An anal douche, also known as an enema, can relieve some of the tension in such cases. Most anal showers are made of silicone and flexible, so they are easy to insert with some water-based anal lubricant!

Types of anal douches

Some anal showers come in the form of a handy hand pump that you can fill with water. Some come with different top units for stimulation. Some of these are specifically shaped for anal stimulation, allowing you to use the anal shower for foreplay as well.

Fill the squeeze bulb with water, place the nozzle on top and squeeze the water reservoir empty into the anus. Take the anal douche out of the anus while you’re still squeezing it. Do not let go of the squeeze ball and drain the anus (applying some pressure) over the toilet. An anal douche can also help if you suffer from constipation (difficult bowel movement). The water stimulates the anus, which in turn relaxes it and promotes bowel movement.

Anal douche heads

Besides the small (hand) pumps, some models can be connected directly to the tap. Most of these products have a connection that fits onto shower hoses, but there are also versions where a hose is supplied with the attachment. These models cleanse the anus thoroughly and deeply. Perfect if you’re showering and you know that you’re about to have sex with your partner or with yourself. In this case, it’s also wise to release the retained water out in the toilet.

Do you have one of these toys at home? We’re very curious about your experience with these gay toys. Let us know in a comment below!

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